I did not start this thread to upset anyone. that is why i titled as i did. This is a hot btton topic. but one i feel the need to address. I don't think you can ever separate the emotional from the Physical. even if you say you are the emotional comes into play.
I guess I should not be surprised by those reporting to have been abused. I find any kind of abuse to be horrible.
If you are in a long term relationship and you are not enjoying or even abstaining from sex how are you and your partner dealing with that?
the last few years of my marriage was pretty much sexless. It was very hard on me and i suppressed my sex drive. It wasn't easy to be faithful. Now that i am signal I try to be right up front with woman that I date. I don't want to be in a sexless relationship. from my limited knowledge mid life woman seem to go in two different directions when it comes to sex. they become either very sexual or give up on sex . i make no judgment here. i just feel that in order fora relationship to work both should be on the same page when it comes to making love. I believe the physical act should be one more thing that bonds a relationship. together. It isn't the only thing to base a relationship on. I have to have the spiritual and The Emotional. With those the physical is about 1000 better.