i think you are talking about the undoing of compounded feelings of self esteem issues and others relative to the depressive experience... my thoughts are that we do ourselves no kindness in compounding guilt or other feelings.. what we are looking for are ways to undo complex and inter-associated feelings that cause us to feel poorly within our own space... first i think we need to forgive ourselves for feeling as we do... next we want to establish feelings of self worth... being at PC lets us grow a positive self image in the way that we use our own experiences from our pasts to help others deal with some current problem we might have had experience with in our own way... befriending and helping others who are alone and having difficulty lets us feel that even tho we have been blamed and accused, we have something of value to give from our experiences.. helping others is our departure from harming ourselves... just my thoughts, good question ((( fuzzy))))