How do you know when your in love with someone or if your just used to them? You see I've been in a relationship with my husband for 10 years, but everyday I feel less. Less wanted, less desired, less needed. I feel like his with me because he's become comfortable with me. He's said that he's not sure if he's in love with me, that hes not with anybody else, but I know for a fact that it's not because he's not trying. I don't understand, one moment he says he loves me, he makes plans for our future. It seems like he feels tide up with me because we have 2 children that he loves very much, and does not want to leave them, he's said in the past that if it was not for our children that he would have gone a long time ago. Sadly I feel the same way. I feel that staying with someone that you love that does not love you back is hell, because no matter how much you can love someone your also capable of hating them. You see the thing is that I used to care what he did, and said, I used to feel pain, literally, inside. But now after so many years i'm staring to feel nothing. not for him but for what he does, says, and the whole situation in general. I need help, I need someone else to look at this situation from another angle. So the question is have I settled? have I grown numb? what separates being in love and being comfortable?