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I agree with Michele. Long term relationships require work, sadly once we have kids usually all of our energy is spent raising them. We forget the love and romance that made us decide to have them in the first place.
We all have peaks and valleys. Hopefully you’re both never in the valley at the same time and you both peak at the same time once in a while. It sounds like you’re both in the valley. It is possible to get that loving feeling back if you’re willing to work and dedicate yourself to one another again.
Love is about putting someone before yourself, romance is about how the other person makes you feel about yourself. It’s selfish, but by the same token by feeling good about yourself and your relationship you do more. I’m not suggesting that you become a doormat, but think about the beginning of your relationship when you received pleasure just by doing those extra small things for him. When his quirks were cute not irritating.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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