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Oh I definitely agree with the hostility comment Vickie. I fear too many people to not give children credit for being the intelligent perceptive creatures that they are. No matter how well you think you’re hiding it, they can see it and feel it even if they can’t verbalize it.
My own opinion, and take it for what it’s worth, is that people give up entirely too easily these days. Unless there is abuse (in any form) everything else can be worked out. I think we need to teach our children that marriage is a commitment that should not be entered into lightly and once made (again unless there is abuse) it should be honored. No one promised us a rose garden. Nothing in life worthwhile is without effort.
I say this from a place of experience. I choose a man to marry that I not only loved, but respected. We shared similar values regarding family I knew this man would never neglect or abandon his children or me for that matter. He’s always had a good work ethic. We married very young and hit a very rough spot around year 5 that lasted quite a long time. There was never hatred or violence; I just discovered I didn’t really like him anymore. Life is short, and aren’t we entitled to happiness? What I discovered is life is what you make of it. Any relationship requires work and why would I put more effort into a new relationship when the issues in my marriage were repairable? The changes didn’t happen over night and those honeymoon feelings can return, they didn’t stay of course but they come and go.
I can’t say that I am sorry for those difficult years, if it were not for them we would not have the relationship we have today.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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