Hi wickerman. I know how you are feeling right now I have been in the same situation. I weighed on whether to tell my husband that I had cheated on him or not. To ease my consience I told him. It has it's benefits and it's not so good things. My husband does'nt trust me like he used to and he still can't get it out of his and it still hurts him even though it's been over 3 years. It's a tough situation. But you do what you think is best. Would you want to know if your girlfriend did that? And how would it make you feel? Of course people will have differant reactions to this kind of stuff but it's still something to consider. Good Luck buddy. I know this is hard