Hi Kis,

Gosh, my wife does this all the time. She always has, and we've been together 25 yrs. I think she pulls them out as well, sometimes, but only one at a time.

I find it fatally distracting if we're trying to have a conversation. I can't concentrate for watching her ritual. I say to her very gently, "You're pulling your hair again". She stops and after a few minutes she just starts doing it again. I don't mind really, but the worry I have is that she does it at work and people are too polite to say anything. My wife does say that she doesn't socialise much at work and she doesn't have a special friend there.

One thing. I've suffered with some nervous body language and over the years I've reduced it a lot, people say it's almost indetectable now. I did it through Buddhist meditation - being aware of my body as much as possible and feeling what I'm doing with it. This also helped a lot with depression. It's called 'mindfulness' and it worked for me.

Good thoughts, Myzen