Roxy, I have 2 grown sons and yes, 5 grandkids. I try to visit them when I can (they don't live close) but find I have to limit the time I spend with them or I get too edgy & irritated. I thought of my time spent raising my sons as "doing the time for my crime". Raising my sons (single mom for 1/2 their time at home) was very, very hard. During the times that they would push me over my limit I found coping methods to deal with it. Mostly, repression of reactions and feelings because I knew I HAD to get thru those years. When the last one left home I had a wonder feeling of relief and I threw a little party for myself for just making it to that point.