I have known some peeps who have been with men who are being treated the same way as this. I really think it's because of low selfesteem. I know of someone in my life going threw this right now, and it is driving my nuts. This certain someone in my life is always making excuses for him, and she feels sorry for him.She gets so upset with me, because I told her that I don't buy into his excuses, and that she can find better then this. I guess some peeps just feel they are not worthy of expecting standards, and values in a relationship.