Oh I'm sorry, I didn't mean to imply that they're married. This is a relatively new relationship for them, together for about 4 months. Not married, she was married to a jerk but this guy is just a live in boyfriend. Which made his comments about how she spends her money even more offensive to me. She did find this offensive as well and did express that she wasn't going to put up this type of behavior. But then he got arrested for DWI etc. and she worked her butt off to get him out of jail.

But all that aside, even though I'm a firm believer in taking those vows seriously, there's no way I would tolerate that behavior and she has so much going for her I just don't understand why she does either.

Depressme - yep she does respond to the manipulation. It's so sad to see. I wonder very much if she stays with him not because she doesn't think she can do better but because she knows he cannot and would like to "save" him.