Thank you so much for this encouragement. I loved your analogy of some people not liking spiders! Since I had never met anyone who felt the same way...I figured I must be wrong. I've gone thru the whole, "What happened to me in the past to make me this way?" internal digging but couldn't find anything. I agree that many can grow up to be very interesting and engaging adults. I think that 4 year old lives next door to me. He's got light brown hair, destructive, rude and totally verifies my initially stated problem. Which if one looks at it like spiders, it is not a problem.