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I’m repeating myself I know as I’ve posted this a million times on this site, BUT my mother stayed with my father who was an abusive alcoholic. Now their story did have a happy ending, my father was able to get help and remain sober. HOWEVER it is my firm belief that it was her responsibility to protect us, her children, from ANYONE that would do us harm. My brother and I carry a great deal of baggage because of our childhood. My mother has a selective memory and does not “remember” the most horrible of the instances. They were madly in love their whole lives, from the time they started dating when my mom was like 12 until my father’s death several years ago. Love was never the issue, behavior was.
As happy as I am that things worked out for them eventually, there was an unexpected side effect. My first cousin was married to an abusive alcoholic herself. He beat her to a pulp more times than I care to remember (her kids also carry the scars from her waiting so long to leave him). When she finally got the courage up to really leave him the support system really wasn’t there for her. There was always “ X and Y were able to work through this”. Statistically my parents had better odds of winning the lottery than overcoming the abuse and hardships.
It is my firm belief that if you have no children and choose to live in this situation that’s one thing, but once you make the decision to bring children into this world your promise to them is much more important than the one you made at the alter. Choosing to remain in an abusive relationship with children is not only irresponsible it’s selfish.
The woman in question has 4 children from her marriage varying in age from 19 – 11. The 3 youngest still live at home, one girl and two boys. I wonder what she’s teaching her children about how a relationship should be and how her children feel about seeing a virtual stranger verbally assault their mother.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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