Thanks Vickie

I overlooked your post until now. I am familiar with Nathaniel Brandon. I think I have a book of his on my bookshelf. I'll have to take another look.
As for the god thing...that is a non-starter with me. I have left behind many a twelve step group because of their insistence on a belief in some such thing...I am not capable of that kind of belief. nor do I think I need to be in order to get well. Grace forgiveness and acceptance are human qualities. I do understand intellectually that to the extent that I can practice them on myself (as on others) I can feel better about myself. Perhaps someday that understanding will become a practice.