hi michele...
Thank you for reading the initial post.

I think the confusion, shame/guilt, anger do reach a point where they do not consume us. To me, the ongoing process is living with the after affects, accepting that we are going to have troubled times...but those troubled times will become less frequent.
When I find myself wandering around in those troubled times, I need to take a personal inventory and assess what may have led to it.
Am I always successful? No.
And I do have days when I don't give a FF about anything...
Both are all right...

In Peace