Hi Rapsody,

The Book of Lists I posted about is full of exersizes for parents and teachers on how to modulate behaviors that are common with having ADHD.

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=112872

This book was recomended to me by a child psychologist who has worked with ADHD Boys for over twenty years.

The criteria and symptoms for ADHD males is different than for females . I read the list and was stunned . In fact I believe I was a victium of some ADHD boy bullies growing up.

ADHD can have serious concequences if not treated and it can easily effects ones self esteem . And it can make for a "challenging" family life.

Having a parent angry and resentful and at wits end does not mirror to the child much hope about themselves . Yet thats what it can evoke in a care giver or a friend.

Theres is are a couple of pages on calming de-escalation which is very common with ADHD and dificult to moderate I think . Mood fluctuations are a big part of ADHD . I believe it goes along with the shifting mind . One can shift from happy sad fearful in a matter of minutes depending on where the mind is focused.

Awareness helps. I'm working on how I feel when others interupt my Flow that can go on and on and on and not feel shame as a result of thier interupting me. I can get hurt , feel shame and embarassment and possibly angry .

Coming up with ones own modulating coping skills is alot more helpful than having them imposed and gives a sense of self mastery if thats posible.
People with ADHD are quite creative and can come up with solutions for thier difficulties when asked to.

A balance of looking at the positives that goes with ADHD as well as the not so great is gonna help with the anger and hurt and shame that can result for lack of impulse control and just not being understood.

Patricia