Fox, I think the reason you are starting to be able to communicate and "co exist" is because you are starting to notice your own signs. I remember when I met you, you were dead set on believing that they were all imaginary. I was the same way when I came in this forum. I refused to admit I had DID, even though I was diagnosed but it scared me, so any blackout and anything that fell along the lines of DID, I would make up an excuse. But once I met people in here with DID and realized it's not that scary, I started accepting the fact that I too have it. From there pieces of my life started getting put together. I don't remember my blackouts but at least I know why they happened now, and I know whatever is going on inside of this head is not nearly as scary as I originally thought it to be.
I'm happy you're starting to see that this all may not be imaginary after all! I'm not saying it is in fact DID, I think it very well could be, but I am pretty sure it's some form of DD. I wish you the best in discovering who you are, what is in you and accepting what you find!

Kris