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Hi Doll,
I am not....I repeat NOT.....a relationship expert. If you knew me personally, you would agree. But I have learned some things about ME through the years that I sure would like to share with you.
I used to think that me, the way I was, was not good enough for any guy to like me. So, I had to magically change in some way, ANY way, in order for him to like me. It's taken me over 40 years to realize that there was never anything wrong with me. I was perfectly OK the way I was, warts and all. Even with the "problems" I had.
The second thing I would like to share with you is that one of the biggest mistakes I ever made was to give up doing the things that made me happy in order to please a man or make room for the things he wanted me to do. Yep, I did it. And not only once. I made so many concessions in my life, I ended up resenting the guy I was with and I didn't even know it.
Now, at age 56, I am finally learning that I did all these things and I am trying to reclaim some of those parts of me that I gave up. It is not easy to do now. It makes me sad that I made those mistakes.
You are worth all the self-care you can muster. You are worth looking out for your own heart. You are worth being able to continue pursuing the activities that make your heart sing. You are doing the right thing by keeping your boundries in line.
By taking things slowly you can be sure that you are not letting your impulses run away with you. Good for you, Doll.
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 Vickie
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