(((((((SAS))))))))
First, take a breath
All the confusion and all of what you said can be re-directed to your T in either an e-mail (if she and you do that) or in a letter written by one or all of you--pretty much in lines what you wrote here.
re-read what you wrote here and re-write it asking her what happened in the last session.
We have done that often with our T.
We have a session where things just don't make sense and we hear her saying things that upset us......When we write her a letter and she reads it, it gives her the opportunity to explain.
some times we drop off the letter a day or two before we come or give it to her when we come and excuse us and go to the bathroom while she reads
Just something that works for us.