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Originally Posted by kris9999
If I do chose to trust the t, and my friends even, how do I stop the worries and how do I tear down the walls that are built so strong? I just don't know what to do and am very afraid at the moment, no matter which I chose I will be hurt.
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(((((((((((((kris))))))))))))))
Can you just let yourself show up at therapy and see what happens?? There's no need to force yourself to tear down any walls before you're ready.
I had a BIG thick wall up between me and T for a long, long time...I could even SEE it there. He knew about it, and sometimes he would ask me how high it was on that day, if I could see him over it. Eventually, I came to a point where I wanted it to be gone, but I didn't know how...and he asked what it would feel like to take one brick out, so I did. And it was okay. Slowly, over lots of time, we took out more bricks, and the wall got shorter and shorter with lots of gaps that I could see through.
Now, 22 months into therapy, there is no wall...but it was a long, careful, gentle process to get here.
Let yourself go as slowly as you need to.
