Yep, marriage counseling is what I'd suggest. After 26 years my husband finally agrees to go to one year of marriage counseling; had to show papers for divorce to convince him and this time it was not just a threat. I was to the point it was, here's the deal and if you don't agree then just sign.
Anyway come to find out one of our biggest problems is not knowing each others language. Example: He show's love by giving things. He figured that is what I need to feel loved. Thing is, I need to have him hold my hand, kiss on the cheek once in a while, sat next to, held/cuddeled etc.. without leading to sex every time. I really was not aware of what I needed at the time but found out when helped to take a look at it. We still have a lot to learn and I wish I would have had him agree to longer counseling time but with just the little we learned has made the biggest differance in the world. It is truely a miracle. I am grateful he agreed to a year. It's not easy cuz I also found out things about my self I didn't want to face but it is worth it.
lrks