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Hello May and welcome to PC!
Has your father ever verbalized why he dislikes your husband so intently? Not that it matters really, because the issue is his not yours. I haven’t always adored the people that my children have dated but I try very hard to keep my opinion to myself. I’ve raised my children well and I have to trust that they will choose the mate that is right for them. If there was any form of abuse involved I’d be screaming to the rafters, but other than that my mouth is zipped up.
As an adult you must make your own decisions and mistakes. It’s silly really for your father to continue this emotional blackmail. But in his defense, as Michele pointed out this can be a difficult thing to accept. If my 20 year old came home with a 37 year old I wouldn’t be pleased either, and frankly I’d be asking myself what is wrong with him. I don’t know why, but the gap means less (to me at least) the older you get. If my child was 30 and came home with a 47 year old, I might raise my eyebrows a bit but for some reason that doesn’t bother nearly as much.
Instead of being angry with your father I would pity him, he’s missing out on the love of a grandchild. It is truly his loss.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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