well, in my experience, it depends upon what you see as "your dignity"....if that means, returning to your old self (who ran barefoot through the grass, yelling, "wooooohooooooooo, i'm finally free of the ___________") or if it means, a whole new self, ("well, i am certainly glad to see that i've moved on, as has he". ), then, whatever gets you through the night, works for me. pat