i agree with you bebop. she's beginning to grovel - i'm rejecting her calls and emails but i'm being sent gifts in the mail - it's scary. in the end i got advice to thank her for the gift, graciously. she is good at stirring and i don't want to give her any reason to spread bad things about me, or dislike me, but also to say i need space and will not be in contact for a long time, if at all.