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Old Sep 10, 2009, 08:46 AM
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Originally Posted by clk6 View Post
I asked my h for something he really could have given me. When he said he didnt want to I felt awful.

my h can trigger such painful feelings in me.

I dont even know what those feelings are or where they come from. Childhood...or whatever....he can bring up feelings of self-hate for me.

but when my h acts like this, I get overwhelmed with some kind of un-named feeling. I dont even know what it is. Maybe that is why I do it- I dont want to look at what the feeling is. I just want it to go away and be off somewhere else in my head. Its too painful to even try without cutting.
Sounds like you know very well what is going on with you about this. This is very good. I guess to resolve it you will need to examine those feelings that you are avoiding. I know that you are waiting for a better T right now (and I read your thread in the Psych forum and I agree with you, she doesn't sound like a good T for you). Examining feelings from the past sometimes needs good support.......... (I think that T can't deal with your feelings because she has never dealt with her own. Just my opinion.......)
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