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Originally Posted by clk6
I asked my h for something he really could have given me. When he said he didnt want to I felt awful.
my h can trigger such painful feelings in me.
I dont even know what those feelings are or where they come from. Childhood...or whatever....he can bring up feelings of self-hate for me.
but when my h acts like this, I get overwhelmed with some kind of un-named feeling. I dont even know what it is. Maybe that is why I do it- I dont want to look at what the feeling is. I just want it to go away and be off somewhere else in my head. Its too painful to even try without cutting.
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Sounds like you know very well what is going on with you about this. This is very good. I guess to resolve it you will need to examine those feelings that you are avoiding. I know that you are waiting for a better T right now (and I read your thread in the Psych forum and I agree with you, she doesn't sound like a good T for you). Examining feelings from the past sometimes needs good support.......... (I think that T can't deal with your feelings because she has never dealt with her own. Just my opinion.......)
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