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Sep 10, 2009, 06:45 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2009
Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
Posts: 2,779
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Dear Bayoumagnolia,
My heart aches for you, it truly does. I am 56 years old, have been bipolar my entire life, was misdiagnosed in 1985 as unipolar and treated with antidepressants only (which only aggravates bipolar disorder) and was finally diagnosed correctly 4-5 years ago.
I spent my life trying to make a normal life for myself, i.e., go to college, get married, didn't particularly want children (that changed later), married right out of college, and in the course of 32 years, have been married 4 times, the current time for ten years to a wonderful man. But trying to maintain any kind of normal relationship or life while not knowing I was bipolar and dealing with it by self-medicating with alcohol, going to AA to stop that, failing at marriage three times, reading and studying and trying to figure out what the devil was wrong with me made me feel like the biggest loser on the planet. It wasn't until I had enough therapy, enough hospitalization, enough spiritual development, enough correct medication and got sick and tired of being sick and tired....that my life started to come together.
It is true that some people do not "agree" to be bipolar. They do not want to take medication. It may be that your husband may never "agree" to be cyclothymic. He would rather smoke dope, drink alcohol, take drugs, lose jobs, destroy his family, live with his father......anything but be mentally ill. If that is the case, then there is nothing you can do to change that.
Please know that my prayers are with you. 
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 Vickie
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