yes - "The Five Love Languages .." by Gary Chapman. That book helped my marriage A LOT !! The book has a questionaire you can fill out that will tell identify your preferred love language. We both read the book and took the quiz. My primary love language is acts of service and quality time - my husband's is physical touch and words of affirmation. It was fun. Maybe you could get the book from the library and suggest that it would be fun for the both of you to read through it ?? Good luck to you.