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I understand the difficulty with accepting that you're lovable. Even if I tell you that you are because it comes through SO clear in this forum, you probably wouldn't believe me. I wonder if I'm lovable too. I'm also learning how to love others and express that love, which is hard for me.

I think melba, you have a point. Maybe it is true that many of us don't think we are lovable because we know parts of us aren't. We wonder if people would love us if they KNEW the truth about us, that we have dark, flawed parts that no one would love. We think.

But, we love others who are imperfect, don't we? If they are lovable, then so are we. We can be lovable even if parts of us are not, just like we can see parts we don't like in others, but we still love them. It puts the pressure off of us for our "unlovable parts" to be loved, too. I think your T has a very helpful way of looking at something that should be obvious to us, but isn't. Thank you for sharing that.