YEp, I find that people confuse cutting with suicidal ideas. It is totally different. It can be annoying. I have found my own reasons for NOT CUTTING. Having my children ask questions is just one of them. Focusing on them is so helpful. Unfortunately, I don't care what anyone else thinks, so that wasn't a helpful deterent. God has been so gracious, sending me people that are non-judgemental. I am glad you have a friend that you can talk to.