I agree that this is a very good topic for discussion. Most, if not all the time, I feel that I have to have someone in my life to be happy. I think it's due to my lack of self-esteem. I feel like I need someone to help me be "whole". But wouldn't it be better to learn to be "whole" on my own and then find someone to be in my life? It seems that would make the relationship better. Without being whole on my own, aren't I depending too much on the other person? Does this make sense?