Hello!

What about allowing yourself to be jealous? What is the worst that can happen if you would allow yourself to have the feelig of yealousy without juding yourself. No one need to know. I am thinking that as long as you carry the belief that you should not be yealous, that you are bad when you are feeling yealous just as long will you have a problem with being yealous and you will have a conflict within youself. If you would let go of the belief that you should not be yealous there would not be a conflict...

Yealousy, love, anger , happiness etc etc are all feelings that all humans have no matter if we should or not. We all know that love and yealousy often go together and why is that do you think? In my view it is because we tend to gard what we love so we will not loose it, very simple. You are not childish, you are an adult women who is yealous of your future sister in law. I would be too. Think about it ..Here she showes up from no where, young, pretty charming getting everybodys attention!!! I hate it, I want the attention, it is not fare, I had your attention for so long and here she comes and gets it just like that. [censored] [censored] [censored]!!!!! It is MY FAMILY GO TO YOUR OWN!!!!

By the way, there is nothing strange, bad or abnormal with you being yealous and feeling threatened by your future sister in law. The simple truth is that you will no longer be the only appreciated sister in law or daughter in law in your husbands family. I think on the contrary that you would have to be a cold, indifferent individual if this change in the family you love would not in any way affect you. You are reacting to change and it is a process that will take some time or you will always be yealous of your sister in law, time will tell. Try to remember that you are you and your inlaws love you because you are you and hoprefully they will love your future sister in law as they love you. Maybe one day you will get to know your sister in law so well that you two sit in the hammock confining how each of you felt in may of 2002.