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Originally Posted by Rachie
I had a fight with my boyfriend earlier and he was fully blowing up at me saying things like "you're a lazy f*cken c--- who doesnt do *****" "im going to pack my **** and ***** off" but while he was saying these things that would normally bring me instantly to tears i just sat there and quite clamly i responded to him, all i said was good pack your ***** and p*ss off i don't care and carried on with what i was doing and acting as if nothing was said to me at all...ive done this a few times when we have argued..so my question is, is this normal? does this happen to anyone else? Im still not really that upset either...why is it that sometimes when he tells me he wants to leave me because im such a ****** i cry and other times i couldnt give two f*cks what he did...i dunno  |
Hi Rachie
It sounds like it could be a healthy response to your boy friend who could be spliting you..
Since your strugging right now with adhd the things he said to you could be frustrations centered around some of your inabilites .I would guess.
our inabilities are Not our inner essence . they are our brains not working well and our emotions arising out of those difficulties.
Your not lazy and you do work and are. Correct? yes.
Its gonna take some time to change .
It sounds like hes not happy Rachie , And you may have to be willing to let him go.
You do not need to have somene who is disatisfied with you cuses at you and then threatenes to leave you and you beg him to stay.
You deserve better . I know having ADHD its VERY difficult to feel and think we would make great partners so we cling to what ever comes our way.
I find living alone better than putting up with the complaints,
If he ever treats you like that . just respond I have ADHD Im not lazey and Im working very hard on this . Its going to take some time.
If he cared about you hed start reading about adhd.
His treatment of you is Abusive Rachie. It woud be beter if he left you. Im sorry to say this but no one deserves to be called a lazey *****.
Splitting from my understanding is when you momenrairily see a person or place or a situation in terms of all or nothing . great or catestrophic . safe or threatening. Evil or angelic and respond in kind, to which view you hold, forgeting the other side or seeing a middle ground.
So those who in the 1930's saw thier investment crash and jumped to thier death were splitting. They were not able to see a light in the middle . They were to attached to living the good life and could not fathom, walking the streets bumbing socks form someone who froze to death one night . So they lept.
Keep that quiet inner strenth your building. If he leaves you'll get through it .
And hopefully no one will ever threaten to leave you again.
Good . Let him walk , MEAN it...... And KNOW you have a great future though it wil takesome work . It will get better.
You''ll be wiser in your choise of "maties" as well.
Now back I go.. out into the world of overtimulation......
Patricia