First off, let me say thanks to you all for your kind (and otherwise) words. I know I have a responsibility for what’s going on. I also know it is not 100%. All I have been looking for is some support from her. I have been working on beating this depression since late March / early April. I feel like I had 2-weeks where she was “tolerant” to what I was going through, not even really supportive.

I feel some of the behavior I have seen from my wife has not been rational. When I approach her on this she gets very defensive, thinks I’m trying to document that she has psychological problem. Nothing could be further from the truth; I really wanted this to work. This has been a crappy week for me emotionally :-(

I’d like to answer a few of your questions that have remained unanswered:

Lmo: Don’t worry about being too truthful for me, I can take it & need to ( a dose of reality). You have a good memory & I didn’t end up sleeping in my pickup, combination of good friends & family.

Lady Dragus: Thanks for your words; they show me someone else is looking at this about the same way I am.

Heidu: “waiting to see if I succeed” is just an example that she is doing nothing to help correct the problem. When I was out of the house for 18 or so days this summer, we both made lists of things we needed from each other. I was expected to agree too everything on her list but she would not commit to doing anything that was on my list. Just so you know, I had items like “go out with your friends at least once a month” & she had things like “do more of the housework”. I just don’t understand her anymore.
“tell her that when she needs a break you could take your daughter for some hours…”
This is automatically assumed whenever I am at home. If I’m home, I get up with my daughter at least 6 out of 7 days. I bring her to preschool 2 days a week partly to give my wife a break. Where’s my break?

I don’t know what’s going tomorrow, but we only need to make it to Monday morning, our 2nd couples session. Thanks again for the input & well whishes, they really help!

Noc