Thanks all of you for your responses.

Wil, You have given me a few good reminders that I should not take things personally when he forgets or fazes out and does not listen. My DH is good at being organized, thank goodness for that, it is mainly that he takes a lot of time before doing something that is not too appealing or he will start something and take forever to finish it.

Twice, his ADD was there long before, it was just never recognized as such. His self esteem took a beating since he was often told that he was lazy, he could do better, lacked gumption and all of that. The death of his mother and the fact that his doctor put him on antidepressants just made his brain fuzzy and harder for him to focus. The financial issues were mainly due to his impulsivity. The diagnosis simply served to connect the dots.

Now that he is on the correct meds, no more antidepressants but now on Concerta, he is doing a whole lot better.

Krystal, I was also worried that when he started taking meds for it he would become different, but no, actually it made him come back, new and improved, to the guy I fell in love with back then.

I have good hopes that things will only get better.

Charlotte