This kind of helps me in my situation. My friend who has bpd, whom which we have more feelings than just friends for each other, has confused me to no end about us. Since he has been diagnosed with bpd I have researched it quite a bit and I keep reading that it's hard for people with bpd to have a loving relationship without turmoil. When we met he was going through a terrible break up and we got really close and I have stuck by his side for a year now helping him through all the hard times and it's definitely been a rough ride. It makes much more sense now that I know he has bpd, but I am so confused on what I should be doing for him. We both know that being in a relationship is out of the question because of his moods, but we both have agreed that too much has happened between us in an intimate way that we do not believe that we can just be friends. The past week has been the worst of all and I'm pretty sure it has come to an end, but I am still soooo worried about him. I do love him with all of my heart, but after a year of no commitment from him and me being there for him every step of the way is just not fair to me anymore. I don't want to give up on him and am scared to, but the fact that he has started hanging around other single girls is just too much and I feel I need to stop revolving my life around him and trying to help him and worry about myself and my daughter. Anyway, I'm sorry I'm sure I've bored everyone to death with that!