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Sep 12, 2009, 08:47 PM
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Originally Posted by hangingon
Dreamseeker,
It's interesting how our minds block out certain things. I believe it's because we dissociate as they are happening so as not to remember what was going on because it was too intense for us. It's a defense mechanism but it works.
I want to discuss this with my T, because I've started noticing that I've been dissociating in other ways (feel like I'm moving in slow-motion after a hard session), but I never knew that was considered dissociation. But yes, I think that must be it - I've always had a very active imagination, I think dissociating comes very easily to me as a defense mechanism. And in my last session with T, I started to feel lightheaded and had to make myself really focus on being present.
However, I am finding that mine are not working so well lately. I have been having the hardest time sleeping, either it takes me hours to fall asleep, or I will fall asleep but can't stay asleep. I have no had issues with sleeping in a long time. I attribute some of this to the deeper work I am starting to do in therapy. Yet, I am in my last semester of college and there is alot of stress involved with that as well. Things like this can be very frustrating.
I am also feeling things a lot more lately, more overwhelmed. I am not comfortable with that either. Ah, all these things to work through.  |
 hangingon
I hope your sleeping improves, that is the worst! It's tough that the deeper work affects us so much that we feel overwhelmed and then to be tired on top of that - it's a lot to handle. Maybe talk to T about feeling overwhelmed?
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Something my T tells me alot is that she wants me to have total control over what I want to talk about. That I don't have to tell her everything to heal. She also encourages me to tell her if I don't want to talk about something, or if we are talking about something and it gets to overwhelming, she wants me to tell her when I need to stop. She doesn't push it. From the very beginning she encouraged that control. She knew I needed that.
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My T didn't come right out and say it at first, but she's always let me start a session and then followed my lead with discussions. After one very hard session, T wanted to talk more about something I'd revealed, but she told me that it was perfectly okay if I didn't want to discuss it - and I told her I couldn't, not then. She waited for me to bring it up again at another session. Just this past week, we started to get into something heavy at the very end (and this was after an already emotionally intense session) - I told her that I just couldn't go there, it was too much, and I didn't want to bring all that up at the end of the session, either. T just let it go, and she won't bring it up again until I do - I love that about her! 
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