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Originally Posted by Vickie in Phoenix
Hey Morgan,
I think that the reason everyone keeps telling you that talking to the counselor was brave and mature is because even adults have a hard time talking to people about their problems.
There's another reason, too. I learned this in my development classes when I was in college. For kids, all their lives its their parents who are the adults that they look to for guidance and learning. When kids become teens, they start the process of becoming adults themselves and they don't always get along with their parents (duh!). So, this is a rough time for them. Suddenly they don't like the people they used to trust. Even though it may not seem this way on the surface, their world is shaken up badly. Their security is shot. So, kids your age are left in limbo, wondering who to trust and what to do.
Then along come all these strangers (us people online) suggesting that you to go to your school counselor. You don't know if that is the right thing or not. But after considering it, you believe that it is because you decide to trust us. That is a very big thing for you to go and talk with another person that you don't know well but who's supposed to be able to help you. It turns out that he did. So, that is why everyone is telling you that it was a brave and very mature thing to do. Because you trusted. And because you cared enough about yourself to help yourself. Even some grownups can't do that for themselves.
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Thank you...
Everything you just said made so much sense in my head. I understand why people say that now. You just totally opened my eyes to that and your totally right. The weird thing to me is that I have no problem trusting him and really anyone I don't know that well but I have huge problems trusting people I've known my entire life that say that I can trust them with anything and will always be there for me. I think it's because people you know really well have a higher chance of betraying you. I also agree with what you said about how kids look up to there parents for guidance but as teens we don't always like our parents so much. I know its just part of being a teenager and some teenagers don't like there parents but a lot of them do and I envy that. I mean I wish I could trust them enough to be like hey ya know what things are not good for me and I'm doing something about it but I can't even say that to them. Went I went in there to talk to him last week...first time ever meeting this guy that I know or should be able to help and i'm shaking like a crazy person I was so nervous but I just talked and it helped when I didn't think it would. I understand why some of the things are the way they are but I don't understand the rest of it. The rest of this mess just goes right over my head. I am trying to learn how to be a better person and how to trust the people in my life but it's so much harder than i thought it would be. I mean is it really necessary for us to fight about everything?? But we do and something needs to change for that to stop. I may not be the person who she wants and I may not do the things she wants me to but this is who I am and she needs to except it. My family thinks i'm this materialistic, dist, superficial, person and yeah i may have a little bit of those things in me but that does not mean that's all who I am because I am so much more than what they give me credit for. Just because I put time into my appearance does not mean I am a person that just wants everything to be about me because I don't want anything to be about me. Hopefully things will get better with time and talking and hopefully my school psychologist can help me talk to my parents and the rest of the family and help me show them that yeah Im a different person now and I'm not all the things they think I am but I am still a good person. I just want to be able to communicate to them that I am not trying to hurt them, I'm not trying to start and argument and I'm not trying to do the opposite of everything they want me to be and want me to do.
I AM JUST ME. thats all I know how to be is myself. if they don't like well that just sucks for them and I guess we won't have a relationship.
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So much love
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Morgan
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