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I think the good thing AND the bad thing about this board is reading about other people's therapy experiences. On the one hand, we might read how therapy is for other people and think "THAT is what I need" and work with our T to get more of what we need, or even look for a new T. On the other hand, we might read about other people's experience and come to the conclusion that our T doesn't like us, etc...when in reality, our T just has a different style than someone else's.

I agree with Dr. Muffin...this is a great thing to bring up in session. For me, the thing that makes me THE most "stuck" in therapy is any kind of rupture or distance in my relationship with T. There is no way I can do the work unless the relationship with him is absolutely solid. More often than not, at least lately, the relationship IS the work. It's not easy, and sometimes it takes WAY more than one session, but for me, it's where the most growth comes from in therapy. I get to practice asking for what I need, and making compromises, and learning to trust another person.

Be gentle with you