You are brave, Morgan. You said you were really nervous and everything -- that's what makes you brave. I'm a veteran, and I have this hotline magnet on my fridge, and it says "It takes the courage and strength of a warrior to ask for help!" Yeah, it's over the top, but, still, it's true. And if it takes courage for veterans to ask for help, it takes courage for people in high school. (The number is 1-800-273-TALK, by the way, and it's not just for veterans.)
It doesn't seem like you're getting a lot of positive messages at home right now, and that's too bad. That makes talking to your school psychologist all the more important. You seem like a sensible person to me and your heart seems to be in the right place; believe in yourself even if those around you aren't giving you the positive feedback you need. And maybe do some nice gestures sometimes. If your mom's upset when you come home and go to your room, could you give her a hug before you go up there? Maybe it wouldn't do any good, but maybe you'd make her week. She sounds worried about you, and sometimes all that other stuff is just a parent's way of trying to find an easy fix. ("If he'd just dress differently and eat his green beans, everything would be okay!") But that's hard for anyone outside your house to judge.
You're still worried about what to tell your psychologist. I like Elysium's advice. Start off by using a hypothetical situation. Say something like, "What if someone did something kind of self-destructive in the past and told you about it? Would you tell their parents?" Then you'd know. No more mystery. And you've said again and again that you really want to tell him, so maybe you should just honor that and tell him. But that's for you to decide.
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