it happens to others too. i am part-asian (my father was from china) but it is more my mother who doesn't let anyone go…i'm too embarrassed to say how old i am (i have lived and worked independently at times but i wind up back at "home")

she's european catholic, so also an unfortunate feature that can result from extremely family-oriented cultures

but sometimes i think people from backgrounds like ours can be less affected by certain extreme behaviors that are common in hyperindividualistic cultures

so you have to accept yourself and your family for what it is, and focus on whatever solutions you can come up with for the specific problems that you have to face--which is what everyone has to do, ultimately