Sorry that you feel so alone. I also find it very strange that he would rub her feet, and whatever else. Maybe a lot of families are like this, but I never came from one. Maybe it's time for you to move on from him. From what I'm reading in your post is that your very disgusited with him. He won't marry you, and he ignores you. On top of the fact that you don't trust him, and you can't be yourself around him. Why settle for him when there are other people who are able to give you the love that you deserve. I'm not you, but if I was in your shoes I would leave. If you live with him I would start saving money to get out, and if you don't live with him then I would just end the relationship right now. If he ask you why just say I need more out of a relationship than what you are giving me.