sorry i took so long to respond everyone. Things are ok now, its just every now and then he flips out! he doesnt understand that im just one person i cant be expected to do the work of ten people! i know i could do more but at the moment im doing my best and doin what i can! i wish he would read up about my problems but he likes to think i just use it as an excuse, but never have i once said i have BPD its not my fault i get angry or i dont say i have ADHD its not my fault im lazy. and he provokes me alot of the times, its easier for him to just keep his mouth shut than it is me. and also if he wants the house to be "cleaner" than he should learn how to pick up after himself and not be a slob! ill just stop now because im starting to annoy myself...