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I think this is a very interesting article and will bring about many varied opinions. I have a feeling this thread will be a 'hot one' so I hope it won't be removed or locked. I certainly don't think any child should feel, if they don't behave or comply, then they won't be loved.
But, I think it's natural if your child does some thing very wrong that it's okay to act disappointed with them and assign the approrpiate discipline(positive parenting) if necessary. Personally I never hit my 2 girls but when they were younger I would take away priveleges. It's not like we can go around with a smile on our faces when they do things wrong.
I remember once I was very disappointed with my oldest daughter for accidently letting my 1 yr old in the backyard where there was a pool. There's no way I could hide my disappointment that day! But I remember my oldest daughter crying and she said "do you still love me mommy"? This broke my heart and I told her, that I would always love her no matter what and just because I'm mad or disappointed, it doesn't mean my love is gone. I told her it's like when the clouds are covering the sun - it doesn't mean the sun is gone. So I make sure my girls know, that I do have expectations for good behavior but I still love them no matter what even when I'm upset. Through the years we talk alot together and I explain about good behavior and learning how important it is to be a good person. It's important for the parent to set reasonable expectations and guidelines otherwise the child won't know what to do. I also thinks it's important for the parent AND child to discuss their feelings.
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