I'm not sure if this goes here or not, it involves my church and some issues that come up. So here it goes...

I joined this church 2 years ago, got involved with the hospitality part (basically anything that involves food for the church memebers or any functions classify under hospitalty). Any ways, the pastor asked me to be the Hospitality Director. I graciously accepted and love doing it. The pastor feels that I have done a wonderful job too. Just this morning he sent me an e-mails letting me know how much he appreciates me for the work that I do for the church. Of course, this is all on my free time, non-paid and I am completly fine with that.

This past Sunday, I could not be there due to another function after church that I had to plan and I have a 9 month son that has to come with me also. Anyone with children around this age knows about separtation anxiety babies go thru plus the teething phases. The pastor does not have a problem with it, because I am very good at balancing my son and church duties.

Any ways, so I had another person to take over setting up our morning food. She over slept on Sunday, no biggy it happens. So needless to say someone else took over and got everything ready.

I had several complaints about the way the cafe was set up, coffee being burned, too hot, things not being cleaned up properly and so on. So today I sent and e-mail just letting them know the issues that came up on Sunday. I even said that I was not upset, just letting them know for the future should they need to fill in again.

The one person that overslept does this every weekend with me. The person that stepped in and got things ready has been stepping on my toes ever since I started the hospitality area. She always second guesses me, tells me things are not right when the plan that was created was done by me and the pastor. The pastor feels that I have taken that area such as long way and he knows things get done with me in charge.

So basically the e-mail that I sent out she comes back with this long e-mail about how things get done differently when I'm not there because she wan'ts it done differently. What a crock, the plans were set up so things were still in order and doesn't gets chaoitc.

I just don't know what to do. I have major trust issues with her now, and also I guess I feel that I am not good enough. Her e-mail that she sent to me and this other person really hurt me. Then she sent me another one personally saying that she had to do that because I wasn't clear about anything. The person that overslept, understood everything that I was saying. What the heck...she doesn't know anything about the food in the mornings. She was just winging it. Which is fine considering the issues that day, but she has no right to say that I can't address the issue.

Maybe I shouldn't worry, but I am hoping that someone here can understand why this bothers me. Most people understand that mental illness can make other things seem much worse and I think that is the case with me now...but don't I have a right to have feelings and be hurt by this???

Maybe this isn't making sense??? Maybe I should just leave the church???