Thank you so much for your responses. She refuses to take psychiatric medications because her EX-husband forcibly hospitalized her. She's told me that the police were called, she was put in handcuffs, and she was taken to a psych unit in California (we live in New York). She firmly believes, and I agree with her to her some extent, that her rights were violated. I would never pursue any kind of a court order to force her take medications because, most likely, that would mean the end of our marriage.

She returns to me from Romania on October 8th. She was psychiatrically hospitalized here for 2 weeks, and she was put on Invega (a form of Risperdal). Even though there's a depot injection (once/month I believe) she refuses this too. While in the hosptal, the medication clouded her thinking. This let up as the days went buy but it remained with her. She did become more rational, however. She was given scripts upon leaving but she didn't fill them. I'm well aware of side effects of psychiatric medications: I've suffered from major depression since the age of 20 and I continue to be on antidepressant medication. I have an excellent psychiatrist now.

It's not as if she's psychotic continuously, not at all. Rather, she goes through cycles of being fine for 6 or 7 months at a time and then her symptoms begin. When they do begin it becomes EXTREMELY difficult for her and for me. I would like to start psychotherapy myself and it might be appropriate for the both of us to see the same person, as a couple. She was seeing a good psychotherapist but eventually she stopped going.

Adding to our troubles is the bad economy: she's an engineer and she hasn't been able to find a job in her field for years. She's therefore worked part time jobs (not in her field). But, even when she did work as an engineer here (married to me) she had a major breakdown.

Thanks again. Any comments will be appreciated.