If you have a bf, and your not getting your needs meet, than you should tell him. Men are sometimes clueless when it comes to getting your needs meet. They think different than women. Now I do think that if your in a relationship where you have deep feelings for a certain guy than you might want to back off a little bit from the other guys. I'm not saying give up the friendships. Just let your relationship grow with the bf. I don't think that your slutty. What I think or anyone else thinks is not up to us to decide. The way I see it if something makes you feel uncomfortable than you shouldn't do it.