(((((((((Jacq)))))))))
my t and i have had convos around this some... that she wants me to learn to know my needs, and to be able to ask for them - even while knowing that t cannot always provide them all. It is super confusing. but she says it is a part of my healing process so that I can stop being a chamelion and submitting to everyone elses' whims.
hope that helps some. you are deserving. i am glad you asked for waht you needed, regardless of the result (but still hoping T is just busy, and will still answer).