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Originally Posted by jacq10
I can't help but feel humiliated for even thinking that someone would fill even a portion of my needs, and also rejected... not the first time in my life...
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Originally Posted by Kiya
my t and i have had convos around this some... that she wants me to learn to know my needs, and to be able to ask for them - even while knowing that t cannot always provide them all.
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(((((((Jacq))))))) (((((((Kiya)))))))
I'm about to tell you something that I think you both may have some difficulty getting -- mainly because at the times when I find myself feeling that I need something or somebody, I still "know" this but I have trouble getting it myself.
For me, needs are paradoxical and what counts most is not what needs I have, but how I hold them. Rather than try to say this from scratch, though, let me link you to
where I said it before. That whole thread may turn out to be of some interest to you, for that matter.