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Sep 16, 2009, 04:15 AM
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Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: Uk...when i'm on planet Earth :p *hugs*
Posts: 1,185
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Quote:
Originally Posted by william1971
Don't you have to take things like; family upbringing, values into consideration when becoming serious with someone?
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Personal values and morals, yes! Family upbringing, no!
I come from a violent, abusive family (so unsavoury, I wouldn't dare write it here for fear of triggering folks) ...but that doesn't mean I'm a bad or untrustworthy person. In fact, growing up, I saw how they behaved and treated others and made a conscious decision at a really young age to be the exact opposite.
Also, you state that you've been badly treated by women in the past. So, while it's understandable that you're wary, do you really think it's right to transfer those issues onto a new woman in your life? Sorry if that sounds harsh but if a guy treated me like that coz of his past relationships, the realtionship with him would be dead in the water before it even begun.
And just to prove a point...yes, I have many issues myself from past relationships. But when I catch myself taking it out on a current bf, I stop myself and tell him what it's all about and that I know I'm wrong but I'm a bit insecure about things atm.
Communication is THE most important thing in any relationship. Talk to this woman about your thoughts, feelings, insecurities etc...if you want the relationship to work.
Peace,
Julia
xox
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