I "worked" for the church for 3 years full time and part time long before that and found it to be like most organizations. There are people who want to be in control but not in charge. They want to tell people what to do but not take responsibility when things (their ideas) don't work out. Many times the person who complains the most about how things are done is the last person you want in charge. There are people like that everywhere and they really do annoy me. I try to remember that God made mosquitoes, too.

It's easier to say than to do, but don't let her discourage you. She is working through things also, things she may never tell anyone. This may be her way of venting frustrations she has with herself.

You did what you could, planned the best you could and followed up with evaluative feedback. One of the hardest things in life is the fact that not everyone thinks like us. Variety is the spice of life, but sometimes life gets too spicy.