That's so interesting, Sannah, your thoughts of the power being taken out of our lives by depending on other's actions toward us. I'd never thought about it quite that way before. Pretty much the same thing happened with me with my former T a few weeks back and I felt kind of badly when it happened as well. My interpretation after some time was that I was giving myself too much power in the situation. My therapist's responses...or anyones therapist's responses..don't have everything to do with the client. There are a lot of factors involved in someone's actions besides just us. That's the human element here. But maybe it's a paradox like that. We give ourselves too much power and thus end up taking our power away. My head hurts...

Anyway, for me, sometimes when things like this happen I find myself in a bad place for a while but it doesn't last. I can get myself out of this pattern of thinking now. I think, Peaches, that everything we do and feel always has something to do with something that has happened in our past. That doesn't mean it isn't happening now. It doesn't mean that your feelings aren't related to the present either...but I think the responses we have to certain situations now may be like an old tape playing over and over again...and maybe now we can learn to respond differently.